Adulting, New Year’s Resolutions and Reality

It’s not funny or cute any more; “adulting” is an age, not a verb. I am known for saying, I need adult supervision and the very fact I say it indicates I know I am doing something I shouldn’t be doing. Likewise for those who say I don’t feel like “adulting” right now. It means you don’t want to assume responsibility for something, or you don’t want to deal with a current situation. It’s ok, but how about you just say what it is. But, the real question is, have we let pithy sayings and terms get in the way of real communications…with ourselves?

This is the time of year when people proclaim New Years resolutions, something I loathe. If it is something so important you need to do or change, do you need the construct of it’s a new year? It’s a new month, it’s a new week, it’s a new day, you can transform at any time. If your resolution is not that deep, why is it a resolution? Just do it…or maybe not.

The reality is, we are who we are, we do what we do. What happens if we start with that self acceptance, the thought there is nothing wrong and everything after is a choice? How often are goals thwarted and frustration felt because we start from a punitive perspective? 

I know there are those of you who do resolutions, so quick, what was your resolution at the start of 2021? Do you remember what it was? Did you achieve it ? Consider this week as a time of reflection and reset. If someone forces you to give a resolution, simply say to do what needs to be done, when it need to be done.