Category: insights

Where is it Safe to Black in the Land of the Free and Home of the Brave?

“Wait, is this real?” That was a text I got along with an image of Policeman Derek Chauvin with his knee on the neck of a handcuffed, unarmed black man. In the next few hours, the world learned that Chauvin held this position for eight minutes while three of his fellow police officers watched as…

Fade to Black: Happy Birthday Ahmaud Arbery; Your Life Mattered

COVID 19 may very well lead to my death. People don’t seem to comprehend wearing facial coverings in public, so I got the full effect of neighbor’s look I encountered in the lobby. The jaw dropped and eyebrows shot up with a “why are you in this building” look.  There was no sign of recognition.…

Note to Self: The Corona Summer of Your Discontent; How versus When

We’re asking the wrong questions; we’re having the wrong conversations. It’s not when the lock down will end; it’s not when to relax social distancing. The question is how. This is not a weather disaster that subsides and clean up starts. The “models” discussed are when the outbreak will peak, who will be impacted and…

Balancing: Thoughts, Negativity and Focus

We have 12,000 to 85,000 thoughts a day; the average being 50,000 thoughts. That’s a lot of thoughts. For most people (probably you included) 85% to 95% of those thoughts are negative. Are you listening to yourself? Time to rebalance your thoughts. Rather than the obvious -notice your thoughts take a different focused approach. This week,…

Nature versus Nurture: The Company You Keep

You know the debate, the one about nature versus nurture¹, which is more powerful? It’s usually a conversation about the environment a child grows up in. What about now, as adults, what’s the impact of nature versus nurture and what is nurture for grown folks? Here’s the deal, researchers have pretty much agreed, the nature…

Happy New Year: Is That Your Resolution?

“I call BS on that; either you’re happy or you’re not. There is no “more happy;” if that is your New Year’s resolution, check yourself. You’re not happy.” That was my neighbor’s response to someone who said my New Year’s resolution is “to be more happy.” Nuances aside, I saw his point. For example, if there…