Author: Sheila Penelope Thorne

Founder of https://bousbous.com/

If the Shoe Fits?

I have “the list.” I’ve had it for over three years. It’s things I want in a partner that I created under the advice and guidance of a male friend. It’s the must haves and nice to haves. I’m an engineer and it seemed perfectly logical to me to approach a relationship in this manner.…

Too Much Information

You met a new guy and you are very excited. The office is not the place to share your joy. If you don’t invite everyone into your life, you won’t have to kick them out when the party is over. You are not a reality star. You do not get paid for revealing your personal…

Words versus Pictures

“A picture is worth a thousand words,” is an oft used expression. My blog and companion Instagram are just over a year old. The blog has 80 followers and typically gets 25 -30 views per weekly post. My Instagram account has 532 followers and in the last month it trends towards 80-100 views per daily…

Fourth of July

This Fourth of July is a watershed for me. The day marks the signing of the Declaration of Independence of the United States declaring sovereignty from the British Empire. The second paragraph that reads “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with…

Longevity? Don’t be the Gone Girl

There are books and discussion all about how to succeed in the workplace.  Flexibility and doing extraordinary things can be amazing for a career. This is a  different approach. Before you can become the most awesome employee ever, you need to make sure you don’t unexpectedly find yourself  in the precarious situation of being dismissed,…

Point of Confusion: The Common Mistake of Common Knowledge

“The plumber is delayed again. I am tired of switching out these towels everyday to get all the water off the floor around the toilet.” “Turn the water off.” “What?” “There is a handle behind the commode to turn the water off.” “There is?” “Why didn’t you tell me this before?” “I didn’t think of…

Memorial Day

Memorial Day – at times it seems we are trying to hard to forget what the day is really about. Which is rather ironic for a holiday that is all about memory. Memorial day is in honor of those who have died while serving in the country’s armed forces. Formerly known as decoration day, the…

Data? Scientific Study Versus Belief

“Do you fall through out the day?” “Yes.” “How many times? “Depends, anywhere from 10 to 15 times a day.” It was then I noticed the receptionist in radiology looked absolutely horrified.  Which made me nervous, so I mumbled out, “Why do you ask?” “We’re trying to determine if you need assistance walking to the…

Opportunity? Time to Shine

In the movies, there is the soundtrack to cue the moment the hero rises and accomplishes something magical, from the perfect solo, the game saving basket, the solving of an equation, the realization they are about to lose the love of their life and it all changes. There is no music in real life to…

Half Time

Multitasking is a myth. Don’t fool yourself. This is March Madness and I cannot work and watch the game and be fully engaged in each. Therefore, I confess, I must prioritize. I have my day job which I cannot neglect. Then it comes down to watching the games and writing. I write weekly, but March…

March? Let the Games Begin

March 17th! That’s the day the men’s NCAA College Basketball playoffs start. I don’t have a team, I have a history.The year I graduated from the University of Tennessee was the first year the NCAA sanctioned the women’s basketball event.  I was there during the reign of the legendary Pat Summit who has the most…

Resume? Start Over & Stand Out

Abandon the concept of a resume. Yup throw it out. When I graduated from the University of Tennessee, I had one of those carefully constructed mechanical engineering resumes I used for all my interviews including Proctor & Gamble (adult diaper manufacturing), Newport News Shipbuilding (HVAC on ships) and IBM (banking). Three very different companies. Three…

Valentine’s Day

Is the word love over used? Is there a place you love, a food you love, a song you love, a movie you love, a person you love? Can it all be love? If it makes you smile and it gives you joy, then its probably love. Happy Valentine’s Day!

Success? Find Your People

When you set goals, consider what you will need to give up, realize the expert has failed more than the novice has tried and finally, find your people. Surround yourself with the “right” people. Your people are those that support your goals and share your vision. Your people are those that want to see you succeed.…

Martin Luther King Day

“Life is too short,” is an over used, misguided cliché of fill in the blank babble. At least from an analytical view. The average lifespan for American men is about 76 years and for American women it’s around 81 years. Not that short. You don’t know when you will die, you don’t know the day,…

Experts? Be Willing to Fail

The expert has failed more times than  the novice has tried. That was the caption for an Instagram post showing woman repeatedly trying a headstand and toppling over into a backbend. A lot of adults say, I tried <fill in the blank> once, couldn’t do it and it’s just not for me. Tried once and…

Help? Be Receptive

After a dinner party this summer, the last few guests offered to help bring in everything from outside. With great bravado, I quickly waved their help away. I was the host; they were guest. They reminded me that if I left all that food outside, I would have uninvited guests at the critter buffet. The…

Monopolizing? Beware of Meeting Road Kill

Yes, I know, I advocate not using slang. This week, I’ll make an exception and include the definition. It’s “meeting road kill.” This is a situation in which one person monopolizes a meeting in a non-productive manner thoroughly exhausting the participants to a near comatose state and leading to the following exchange of text: “He’s sucking…

Drowning? In Plain Sight

Movies and TV have led us astray with respect to drowning. People who are actually drowning are not thrashing and crying for help. In reality, drowning is unnoticed by observers. The person cannot stay at the surface of the water long enough to cry for help. The head bobs on the surface of the water,…